Ten Things Needed in a Relationship

Image and video hosting by TinyPicI have been struggling with some sour relationships lately. Not a lot of them but every single one can hurt.

I believe this works with any relationships to tell you the truth. My only relationship that I have never had to question is with my husband. I’ve had friends and family that have made me question the relationship.

For any relationships I want and need certain things, actually I expect these ten things from any relationship. I have in no particular order. I think this is universal.

  1. Be Trustworthy
  2. Life is NOT a Competition
  3. Love Unconditional
  4. Stay Honest
  5. Be Thoughtful
  6. Be a Personal Cheerleader
  7. Don’t Forget to Invite
  8. Lend a Hand
  9. Be The Ear and The Shoulder
  10. Know Boundaries

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” It is such a true statement! Don’t get me wrong, I have had many great relationships. However, when you start questioning a relationship it is so hard to deal with!

I will be sharing more about each item above in the coming weeks here at BFL.

Do you agree with the ten things needed? Did I miss anything?

Blessings Lovelies,


  • http://myhomeinthesmokies.blogspot.com/ Joy Ellis

    I agree with all 10. It is really a great list. I have been struggling with a couple of relationships also. So I am looking forward to seeing what you share with us over the next few weeks.

    How are you doing? Been thinking about you! Blessings!

    • http://www.thebonafidelife.net Chele

      Hi Joy! I am doing well. In about six weeks I will have my cancer treatment and then it’s all up hill from there! :) Thank you for being such an awesome friend!

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  • Anonymous

    That’s a great list! I think we all (sadly) have had unhealthy relationships in our lives. The key is to recognize that it’s not good, fix or end it, and then move on. I have trouble moving on!! It’s something that I’m continually trying to work on :)

    • http://www.thebonafidelife.net Chele

      Yes definitely agree that if it’s not good, fix it or end it. I have trouble too Aurie, you are not alone! Relationships are very important to me so it hurts when it comes down to having to make a decision.

  • Anonymous

    I think the most important thing that I learned about relationships is that they all take work. Even my marriage- which is very strong- my husband and I still have to DECIDE to make it work, not just rely on feelings. I think that’s made all the difference for us.

    • http://www.thebonafidelife.net Chele

      Hey Shell! All of them take work! My marriage is my most important relationship to me… and yes you have to make decisions to make it work on any relationship! Thanks for commenting! :)

  • http://www.deepintolove.com/ Craig S.

    Love unconditional is good – but I guess you can’t always expect it – except from the closest “will hide the body” friends.

    To add? I’d just throw in some 1 Corinthians 13 loves – patient, not self centered – you have a bunch in there already – but you asked. :)

    God Bless and Keep You and Yours

    • http://www.thebonafidelife.net Chele

      Haha! Thanks Craig! Very very true!

  • http://www.anutinanutshell.com blueviolet

    You seem to have covered it all here. One thing I have really worked on over the years in all relationships is to listen. I always had an immediate responsive reaction, but I had to train myself to listen to everything, to just let the other person get out what they needed to say before I made any comments on it at all. Even then I often wait until they ask before I give my opinions.

    • http://www.thebonafidelife.net Chele

      Listening is hard especially when you don’t agree! That is a great quality to have! Thanks for commenting friend! See you in a few weeks!